Today let us talk about this adage that "all guys are jerks". Before you start thinking that I'm about to degrade my own kind by talking about this topic, I'm not. All are equal, which is where I stand now.
So, are guys jerks? From a rational viewpoint, YES, guys are jerks. They are selfish, proud, egoistic and horny bastards. Its not a theory, its a fact. Too bad, but this is how guys are programmed to be. Its an inbuilt feature that comes with every guy as a package, be it a normal or inferior good. Seriously, however nice a guy may seem, he is bound to succumb to these 'bugs'. Any good mobile phone on the market today is also prone to bugs. This is simply because of the fact that nothing is perfect. Not convinced? Go look at your fingers, and tell me if any of them are of the same length. If they are, please call me so that I can refer you to the media.
However, it has become somewhat of a generalisation in recent times, and why guys are jerks is mainly due to a self-fulfilling prophecy. If everyone thinks that guys are jerks, then guys will think that it is OK to fool around, it is totally fine to have ONSs, it is perfectly normal to have more than one girlfriend at a time. WHY? Because of how everyone views them. Since every guy is a jerk, I can do these things because everyone else is doing it, and I don't see what's wrong.
Let's face it, there is not much of morality today. There is only a thin line and more often than not people would ignore this line, like how MRT passengers disregard the painted yellow lines and overcrowd the door, preventing the egress of others. What is right and what is wrong? It has become a very subjective issue instead of being a clear cut one.
Ladies are often talking about this issue. They are made of sugar and spice and everything nice, so usually its the guy who is at fault. Well yes, most of the guys are. But because of generalisation, ALL guys become jerks. In any given situation, it always takes two hands to clap. Not that I'm criticising ladies, because ladies are the most beautiful beings created for us men to love and dote on. I'm not being sarcastic, its true. I'm just saying that its not a one way thing. It works both ways.
Ladies have to take a more rational view on this. Let's just draw up an example on women rights activists. Yes, there were problems of sexual discrimination with benefits swinging towards the male factor, and that the males are the dominatory figure but these are all but a thing of the past. By constantly fighting for women's rights here and there, aren't these people creating the problem they wanted to eradicate in the first place? They are merely swinging the balance of discrimination into their favour and putting the blame onto the males again. Yes you want to talk about gender equality, but what equality is there when you start to say, oh ladies should be entitled to this, ah ladies should not do that.
So instead of looking for all the faults in the guy and trying to unearth the jerk in him, why don't you ladies try to look at his good points and also appreciate the things he has done for you? Its inevitatble that there is a jerk in every guy but there is an option not to release it, well in some cases I reckon.
Guys on the other hand have to open their eyes and wake up their ideas. Pride and ego takes no one nowhere. Its a simple matter of having your priorities set. Do you love your pride more or what? For the guys who still want to release the jerk in you when the ladies are already trying their best to accept you, I think you ought to be shot.
Like how some guys start to take their girlfriends for granted once they have achieved their goals in the courtship process? Its another making of a jerk isn't it? You put in so much time, effort and money to woo the girl of your dreams and when you get her you go YEEHAA! And start to treat her coldly. Shouldn't you be even sweeter to her? Considering all that you have gone through to make her yours? You should cherish her even more! What are the chances of guys sustaining their sweet acts after getting into a relationship? The statistics prove that it will only be for no more than a year.
So now, we have proven that guys are jerks. But ladies also have a part to play in this. It is down to how we are programmed differently. So rather than to start pointing fingers on what is right or wrong and who is to be blamed, I suggest that the effort should be put into appreciating the presence of each other and to cherish each other more, putting our differences aside.
Nobody said it would be easy, but it's not too hard either. All we have to do is TRY.
